got some news for you @Taart
you'll need to allow "Vintage story Standalone Server" through your PC's Firewall
i thought it was there by default due to the numerous Vintage Story app that were allowed on mine
but they changed the app name for the server app
for that you go into your settings > Firewall & Network protection > Allow an app through firewall >change settings > allow another app
hope this helps you like it did for me
btw you dont need upnp, its off on my router