Agreed, some of the grinds could be better implemented/polished, however it sounds more like you don't like this kind of game. You are pointing to core gameplay mechanics and progression systems as the source of your anger (most of which can be tweaked by world gen settings or mods, such as monster and rift spawns.) @Ceepert already spoke on that though very well. This is a game about the journey itself and not getting to super mega awesome endgame gear and you would probably benefit from a different game. I do encourage you to try some mods though, you don't even need a zip software necessarily, it's a drag and drop system. Also definitely try messing with some of the world gen settings and ask around the forums and discord for some advice. Vintage Story is certainly not for everyone (I bought two keys for my friends to play and they have both played exactly once with me, which is fine because I understand that MC is more their speed) that being said I do hope it grows on you because it is such a chill and gratifying experience.