VeeFullOfGlee

I have a server through bisect hosting and am trying to play with a friend. That friend who has decent ping only spikes when playing the server(spikes up to 50k+ ms). Only he is experiencing this, my other friend who is from the US (we are from EU) has an ok ping and doesnt get spikes at all. Everything runs great for him. The server is modded. Anyone know what could cause this and how to fix it?

By default it starts with 9 days per month and changing it to 15 in game it fast forwards to winter. Any way to set it up before loading the world? I use bisect hosting and cannot find the option anywhere.