I appreciate the thoughts,
I did get a the dedicated server to work through the separate server application, so I know the port forward is working and there are no firewalls blocking it. The standalone application is a fine solution, so now I'm just kind of wondering why the open to internet function is not working.
The dedicated server I'm using isn't a separate download tho, it is in the same directory as the VS application, just called VintagestoryServer.
Also I don't know if it is something with my ISP but the port checking tool never seems to work for me. It only says the port is open if the server is up and running, and as soon as the server is closed it goes back to saying "Connection refused". Not sure what's up with that, just something weird I noticed.